Sleepy Eyes

The following is a true story…

The other day I had a Facebook friend request from someone. We had a few local mutual friends so I assumed she was in one of the mom groups I’m a part of and accepted her friendship. Within a few hours of accepting I received a Facebook message from this person trying to sell me some eye cream. And the pitch she was using was to sell me on it is that I must be tired with two kids and this eye cream would help with my sleepy eyes. I mean she said it nice and all but…

You guys I can’t. I just cannot.

I replied to her message and said I wasn’t interested because 1. I have an eye cream and I’m happy with it and 2. I am perfectly happy with how my eyes (and face for that matter) look. I wished her luck with her business and then I promptly unfriended her.

I then posted a post on my personal Facebook page that said this:

Professional Tip: Don’t ask to be my Facebook friend and then message me to say my eyes look tired so I buy your eye cream. I can guarantee you I will not be buying your eye cream.

Ok so maybe that sounded a little ragey so I later edited it to add this:

Added: just to be clear I am ALL about supporting each other’s businesses which should be obvious since BTR and I own three of our own businesses and appreciate everyone that supports us. I just don’t think that was the best practice to sell me on your product.

You want to know the best part of this whole exchange? All of the comments left on my post by my friends. My real friends. Everyone was telling me how great I looked and what a great mom I am. You guys, seriously? I honestly didn’t post my little statement because I was fishing for compliments. I truly was just frustrated that someone thought that that was a good way to sell a product. But I certainly don’t hate all the love I got! I was also amazed at how many people said they have received similar messages from other people trying to sell them products.

Sleepy Eyes | Ellie And Addie

Do these eyes look sleepy?

I really am all about supporting other people in their business adventures. If you are my real friend and message me about something you are selling I probably don’t even mind, because you are actually my friend, not a stranger fishing for a sale. I love when people share things to their personal Facebook feeds or business Facebook pages, I “like” those posts all the time. And if I am interested in something, trust me I will message you. I share business posts from BTR and I quite often and appreciate all the love we get on them. But I would never “cold call” people I don’t even know trying to get them to buy things unless they directly expressed they were interested in those posts. It’s just not my style. And if I’ve ever messaged someone about stuff we are selling and they weren’t interested, I’m truly sorry if I took it a step too far, that was never my intention.

Sleepy Eyes | Ellie And Addie

Where am I going with all of this? Honestly I’m not sure, I just really wanted to share this story with everyone. I guess I just think it’s better to build people up than to tear them down. My goal with my Facebook post was not to tear that person selling eye cream down, it was more of a PSA to everyone selling things that a compliment to a real friend goes a lot further than telling a stranger she had sleepy eyes. Because trust me I know I look tired! I mean I have a newborn and a toddler! And the support I got in my post from my friends was nothing short of amazing, I truly love them all!

So let’s all support all of our friends who have small businesses, because whether it’s a side job or a new full-time gig, we’re all just trying to do our best! And use a little common sense (and courtesy) when messaging people about a sale. Hugs and kisses to you all!

Oh and when in doubt, just wear sunglasses as my friend AM recommended! :)

Sleepy Eyes | Ellie And Addie

  • Jessica

    Ha ha ha! I cracked up that someone actually friended you and did that and then got annoyed because who freaking does that? People are just ridiculous with selling stuff these days. I think you look amazing and I agree if all else fails just wear sunglasses. ;)

  • That’s insane.

  • chall1018

    Yes, yes yes! I have had so many people friend me and then start messaging me. It starts out personal “I love your blog” yada yada yada….and then “I’m starting a new fitness group for Beachbody (or whatever) and think you would be a great fit” or something like that. Or it’s an It Works rep trying to sell wraps or something. It’s crazy and something I would never do!
    But I agree with everyone…you look amazing! I only have one 6 year old that sleeps very well and I look more tired than you!

    • I seriously that she was a friend from a mom’s group I was in! Live and learn! :)

  • I am both laughing (at the sunglasses comment) and cringing (at the obvious). People never cease to amaze me. I think you look great, especially given you have a newborn and a toddler, and I think whatever eye cream you’re currently using is doing it’s job fabulously. ;) I get so annoyed by all of the direct sales stuff on fb, but this is a new low! Glad you unfriended her!

    • People are crazy! I totally love supporting friends, but that’s why they are my friends, they don’t tell me I need eye cream! :)

  • Sunglasses and extra large coffee’s for the win. Those make me happier than eye cream anyway :p

  • I hate when I agree to a friend from somebody I don’t actually know that is selling something. I’m all wait wait wait….unfriend. It’s totally different if they are an actual friend. I wish I could buy all their things all the time!

    • I seriously thought she was a friend of a friend! And of course I will support my real friends!

  • Molly

    I really dislike that sales tactic. I had the beauty cream people in the kiosks in the mall try it with me, and honestly, for a few minutes I did nurse hurt feelings and worry that maybe they were right. Then I got mad just like you did. It’s not okay to cut people down. And it’s 1000x less okay to cut people down to try and get them to give you money. You look fabulous. You ARE fabulous. Good for you for standing up for yourself.

  • Sara McCarty

    Amen! Sunnies and walktails for the win! (and you really do look great!)

  • I couldn’t even believe that story when you posted it on FB. Seriously people, you don’t get customers by insulting people!